Monday, June 23, 2008

Thanks to the coffee-mug !

In a small remote village in India,there was a child from a lower-middle class family. but , he belonged to a cast that was treated to be very high in the society. And thats is exactly when it all began...........the boy was brought up and moulded at every step and at every course of time in the nourishing hands of his hopeful parents, who sought nothing but their child's bright future. ...who spent every moment of their life aspiring to bring out their child's best,.......who sacrificed their money,time and pleasures for their child.....who invested all they had in their childs future.

As a due guerdon, the child grew up to be a genius, a maven in all subjects that he came across. he proved to be a man of erudition. his proficiency in the various bailiwicks of education was amazing and awe-inspiring! he could see the bricks in the building. he could think of the atoms in the water. he could speak volumes on the grandiose and majesty of the ever expanding universe. he could unravel the spellbinding mysteries of chemistry with utmost facileness. his fellow students were awe-struck at his ace.there was no domain of intellect or learning that was not his forte.

discrimination, generalization, learning, concept formation, inference, mental manipulation of memories, images, words and abstract symbols, eduction of relations and correlates, reasoning, and problem solving were a part of him. he was an ace in in all the intellectual traits and tasks such as ability to learn, success in adapting to new situations, the number and originality of mental associations, skill in reasoning , producing abstract ideas , problem-solving,...etc. intrapersonal intelligence.... logistic intelligence....interpersonal intelligence ...emotional intelligence......social.... kinesthetic........linguistic......spatial.....analytical....creative.....practical. ...........huh, there was no type of intelligence that he din't have.his parents, teachers, friends, everyone around him gaped with awe at his dexterity.

Now that our boy had aqcuired all his degrees, he set out in search for a job. but then, he was befuddled. No one had a vacancy for him. he fell into a stupor. what's this? but that was not the end. Only dejection greeted him wherever he went. he was turned down by every employer coz he did not belong to a caste that had reservation. he was thrown into an abyss of disheartenment and melancholy.
was all my learning in vain?

is evrything that i was taught at school and college hollow??

are all my hardwork and knowledge just to go down the drain?

why has destiny been so cruel to wipe out the sweat, sacrifices and hopes of my parents?

am i destined to be doomed, without any miscue on my part?

what should i do now? have i the courage to live with this utter failure? should i end here?? but whats the point in living a life and finally leaving as a failure and coward? is there no other go? his mind went blank with despair. his conscience couldn't suggest him anything. it seamed to be unconcious ( or was it that he was supressing it with all his opressing thoughts?).

Though he was earnestly trying to contemplate on what happened and what has to happen he couldn't make it. he felt a lump in his throat. he felt his heart disgorge into his mouth. he could feel his heart in his fist. he was depressed by the past, utterly dejected, and tensed by the very thought of his obscure and fuzzy future. then something on the table attracted his attention. it was the coffee mug on his table. he lifted the coffee mug and began to move it around in his hands slowly. his attention was grabbed by the writing on the coffee mug.

" The difference between a successful man and a failure lies in whether he sayings ' i have failed 3 times' or ' i am a failure' ".
................his mind was coming back to work. he felt his concience awaking and coming alive.he decided to say "i have failed once". he realised that many of life's failures were people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. he also knew that if a man could dare to fail greatly, he could certainly achieve greatly. he had indeed failed greatly. ....he decided to achieve greatly.now his future was slowly appearing clear to him. he got up with confidence, took a deep breath and said to himself aloud " i have failed once, but i can achieve greatly. success isn't my destination, its my journey, and i will continue on this neverending journey."

..... "success is getting up and treading with confidence even after falling"

Thanks to the coffee-mug!! [:)]
signing off,
Miss Shark~ the girl who bought the world.
(i'm not a billionaire)

Chocolate at 6 o'clock everyday !!

It was 6pm and it was raining cats and dogs. little johnny's father called johnny. johnny came to his father, and then seeing him eating something, his father asked him

" eating sugar?"
" no pappa"
"telling lies?"
" no pappa"
"open your mouth"
........
..little Johnny opened his mouth only for his father to find a chocolate in it. but though not kids thats what even we do..eating chocolate.

Then i realised it was 6 o'clock and its time to have chocolate. for anyone of us this is the sweetest thing. and as someone said "Stress would not be so hard to take if it was CHOCOLATE coated". Now, would i take stress just if it was stress coated??
would i not mind taking stress, though it was chocolate coated? ah .. ahem...maybe i wouldn't!

someone said "Money talks , chocolate sings". But does it really matter which talks and which sings?? atleast for me it doesn't matter which one of them talks and which one of them sings as long as i have the money to buy chocolate [;)].

So i put it on the top of my "to do" list, "eat chocolate at 6 o'clock everyday", so in that way, i'll atleast get one thing done. so i took out my chocolate, and then they say, a balanced diet is chocolate in both hands. so i had a dark chocolate and a white chocolate. i ate it before it could melt in my hands.
But, would i be able to eat it before it melts away everyday? or would something be wrong with me that i eat so slowly that the chocolate melts away in my hand?? lets see.... But then, how much would i be if i eat chocolate evryday? moreover, people say that
among life's mysteries is how a two pound box of chocolate can make a woman gain five pounds.............or will i end proving to be true, the good old diet-tip which states that eating a chocolate bar before each meal. It'll take the edge off your appetite, and you'll eat less. so now, will i finally put on some extra pounds ?....or.... will i lose some pounds?? lets see......but they say "chocolate makes you fat......chocolate makes you unable to quit...chocolate makes you more pimple prone...... chocolate makes you this........chocolate makes you that......"

@#!^*&*^!#@........Aaaargh..can't we eat what we want? ....
can't we do what we want?....
but then, whats the point in living a life when you can't do what you want? ..when you cant live the way you want?.....when you can't feel alive?
It's like living a lie!!!!!..... and i dont want to live a lie! i just want to live a life !!...........

so again back to square one............. its all very simple.........never mind what they say!

Miss Shark~ the girl who bought the world
(i'm not a billionaire)


One paragraph that explains life!


Arthur Ashe, the legendary Wimbledon player was dying of AIDS which he got due to infected blood he received during a heart surgery in 1983. From world over, he received letters from his fans, one of which conveyed: "Why does GOD have to select you for such a bad disease"?

To this Arthur Ashe replied:
"The world over -- 50 million children start playing tennis, 5 million learn to play tennis, 500,000 learn professional tennis, 50,000 come to the circuit, 5000 reach the grand slam, 50 reach Wimbledon, 4 to semi final, 2 to the finals, when I was holding a cup I never asked GOD 'Why me?........................................

..........
And today in pain I should not be asking GOD 'Why me?' "

Marvelous! dont u think.......
Miss Shark ~ the girl who bought the world
(...i'm not a billionaire)

Sunday, June 22, 2008

How do i love n care for someone who doesn(?)'t love n care for me?


It's infact very easy to love people who love you and treat you well. we love our parents coz they take care of us and love us as if we are their sole posession ( we are'nt speaking about gratitude). we are the apple of their eye. And we love our grandparents coz, maybe no one couldtreat us better than them. Putting up with our tantrums, bearing all the naughty things we usedto do since we were a kid, buy all the unnecessary things we asked and all the necessary things we din't ask , allow us stay awake past our bedtime, tell us stories....... who could do all these better than our grandparents.

So, may be its the easiest thing , to love someone who loves you and cares for you. but then , how do we ever love someone who doesn'(?)t love you and doesn'(?)t care for you ?? someone who doesn'(t) treat you well?? how could we love the people who used to squeeze our cheeks when we our a kid (just becase at that time we dint know that it was pampering and just because our cheeks were so tender and used to ache)? how do i love that fellow who used to snatch my money and buy me chocolates of his choice ( just b'coz he would'nt allow me to select my chocolates :p), and how do i evr love my mathematics faculty (for the sole reason that she teaches me math, the subject which i have a strong aversion for) ?? and then the person who dodged the ball from me when i was dribbling the ball down the basketball court just when i was getting ready to shoot the ball (just b'coz that last shot could put us up as winners or brand us as losers)? How do we love or care for someone who is nosy about us? someone backbiting? or someone who creates roumers? And then can we love someone who fails to keep our trust (after all every relationship and every kind of relationship is based on this fragile thing)??

Ahem... maybe we could never, even after trying (?) but then a question in my head. Then what do i do with these people?? Should i reciprocate the same ego, spite, snoopiness, trump? what do we do? what? what should i? then another question from the deep within.......................
..... "ohh dear, so when did you start thinking of what other people said or did???


Hmmm... some question themselves prove to be the best answers........

signing off,
Miss Shark ~the girl who bought the world ( i'm not a billionaire)

Saturday, June 21, 2008

Narayana Murthy's (chairman of the Infosys Technologies) speech

N R Narayana Murthy, chief mentor and chairman of the board, Infosys Technologies, delivered a pre-commencement lecture at the New York University (Stern School of Business) on May 9. It is a scintillating speech, Murthy speaks about?the lessons?he learnt from his life and career.


Dean Cooley, faculty, staff, distinguished guests, and, most importantly, the graduating class of 2007, it is a great privilege to speak at your commencement ceremonies.
I thank Dean Cooley and Prof Marti Subrahmanyam for their kind invitation. I am exhilarated to be part of such a joyous occasion. Congratulations to you, the class of 2007, on completing an important milestone in your life journey.
After some thought, I have decided to share with you some of my life lessons. I learned these lessons in the context of my early career struggles, a life lived under the influence of sometimes unplanned events which were the crucibles that tempered my character and reshaped my future.
I would like first to share some of these key life events with you, in the hope that these may help you understand my struggles and how chance events and unplanned encounters with influential persons shaped my life and career.
Later, I will share the deeper life lessons that I have learned. My sincere hope is that this sharing will help you see your own trials and tribulations for the hidden blessings they can be.
The first event occurred when I was a graduate student in Control Theory at IIT, Kanpur, in India. At breakfast on a bright Sunday morning in 1968, I had a chance encounter with a famous computer scientist on sabbatical from a well-known US university.
He was discussing exciting new developments in the field of computer science with a large group of students and how such developments would alter our future. He was articulate, passionate and quite convincing. I was hooked. I went straight from breakfast to the library, read four or five papers he had suggested, and left the library determined to study computer science.
Friends, when I look back today at that pivotal meeting, I marvel at how one role model can alter for the better the future of a young student. This experience taught me that valuable advice can sometimes come from an unexpected source, and chance events can sometimes open new doors.
The next event that left an indelible mark on me occurred in 1974. The location: Nis, a border town between former Yugoslavia, now Serbia, and Bulgaria. I was hitchhiking from Paris back to Mysore, India, my home town.
By the time a kind driver dropped me at Nis railway station at 9 p.m. on a Saturday night, the restaurant was closed. So was the bank the next morning, and I could not eat because I had no local money. I slept on the railway platform until 8.30 pm in the night when the Sofia Express pulled in.
The only passengers in my compartment were a girl and a boy. I struck a conversation in French with the young girl. She talked about the travails of living in an iron curtain country, until we were roughly interrupted by some policemen who, I later gathered, were summoned by the young man who thought we were criticising the communist government of Bulgaria.
The girl was led away; my backpack and sleeping bag were confiscated. I was dragged along the platform into a small 8x8 foot room with a cold stone floor and a hole in one corner by way of toilet facilities. I was held in that bitterly cold room without food or water for over 72 hours.
I had lost all hope of ever seeing the outside world again, when the door opened. I was again dragged out unceremoniously, locked up in the guard's compartment on a departing freight train and told that I would be released 20 hours later upon reaching Istanbul. The guard's final words still ring in my ears ?-- ?"You are from a friendly country called India and that is why we are letting you go!"
The journey to Istanbul was lonely, and I was starving. This long, lonely, cold journey forced me to deeply rethink my convictions about Communism. Early on a dark Thursday morning, after being hungry for 108 hours, I was purged of any last vestiges of affinity for the Left.
I concluded that entrepreneurship, resulting in large-scale job creation, was the only viable mechanism for eradicating poverty in societies.
Deep in my heart, I always thank the Bulgarian guards for transforming me from a confused Leftist into a determined, compassionate capitalist! Inevitably, this sequence of events led to the eventual founding of Infosys in 1981.
While these first two events were rather fortuitous, the next two, both concerning the Infosys journey, were more planned and profoundly influenced my career trajectory.
On a chilly Saturday morning in winter 1990, five of the seven founders of Infosys met in our small office in a leafy Bangalore suburb. The decision at hand was the possible sale of Infosys for the enticing sum of $1 million. After nine years of toil in the then business-unfriendly India, we were quite happy at the prospect of seeing at least some money.
I let my younger colleagues talk about their future plans. Discussions about the travails of our journey thus far and our future challenges went on for about four hours. I had not yet spoken a word.
Finally, it was my turn. I spoke about our journey from a small Mumbai apartment in 1981 that had been beset with many challenges, but also of how I believed we were at the darkest hour before the dawn. I then took an audacious step. If they were all bent upon selling the company, I said, I would buy out all my colleagues, though I did not have a cent in my pocket.
There was a stunned silence in the room. My colleagues wondered aloud about my foolhardiness. But I remained silent. However, after an hour of my arguments, my colleagues changed their minds to my way of thinking. I urged them that if we wanted to create a great company, we should be optimistic and confident. They have more than lived up to their promise of that day.
In the seventeen years since that day, Infosys has grown to revenues in excess of $3.0 billion, a net income of more than $800 million and a market capitalisation of more than $28 billion, 28,000 times richer than the offer of $1 million on that day.
In the process, Infosys has created more than 70,000 well-paying jobs, 2,000-plus dollar-millionaires and 20,000-plus rupee millionaires.
A final story: On a hot summer morning in 1995, a Fortune-10 corporation had sequestered all their Indian software vendors, including Infosys, in different rooms at the Taj Residency hotel in Bangalore so that the vendors could not communicate with one another. This customer's propensity for tough negotiations was well-known. Our team was very nervous.
First of all, with revenues of only around $5 million, we were minnows compared to the customer.
Second, this customer contributed fully 25% of our revenues. The loss of this business would potentially devastate our recently-listed company.
Third, the customer's negotiation style was very aggressive. The customer team would go from room to room, get the best terms out of each vendor and then pit one vendor against the other. This went on for several rounds. Our various arguments why a fair price ?-- ?one that allowed us to invest in good people, R&D, infrastructure, technology and training -- was actually in their interest failed to cut any ice with the customer.
By 5 p.m. on the last day, we had to make a decision right on the spot whether to accept the customer's terms or to walk out.
All eyes were on me as I mulled over the decision. I closed my eyes, and reflected upon our journey until then. Through many a tough call, we had always thought about the long-term interests of Infosys. I communicated clearly to the customer team that we could not accept their terms, since it could well lead us to letting them down later. But I promised a smooth, professional transition to a vendor of customer's choice.
This was a turning point for Infosys.
Subsequently, we created a Risk Mitigation Council which ensured that we would never again depend too much on any one client, technology, country, application area or key employee. The crisis was a blessing in disguise. Today, Infosys has a sound de-risking strategy that has stabilised its revenues and profits.


I want to share with you, next, the life lessons these events have taught me.
1. I will begin with the importance of learning from experience. It is less important, I believe, where you start. It is more important how and what you learn. If the quality of the learning is high, the development gradient is steep, and, given time, you can find yourself in a previously unattainable place. I believe the Infosys story is living proof of this.
Learning from experience, however, can be complicated. It can be much more difficult to learn from success than from failure. If we fail, we think carefully about the precise cause. Success can indiscriminately reinforce all our prior actions.
2. A second theme concerns the power of chance events. As I think across a wide variety of settings in my life, I am struck by the incredible role played by the interplay of chance events with intentional choices. While the turning points themselves are indeed often fortuitous, how we respond to them is anything but so. It is this very quality of how we respond systematically to chance events that is crucial.
3. Of course, the mindset one works with is also quite critical. As recent work by the psychologist, Carol Dweck, has shown, it matters greatly whether one believes in ability as inherent or that it can be developed. Put simply, the former view, a fixed mindset, creates a tendency to avoid challenges, to ignore useful negative feedback and leads such people to plateau early and not achieve their full potential.
The latter view, a growth mindset, leads to a tendency to embrace challenges, to learn from criticism and such people reach ever higher levels of achievement (Krakovsky, 2007: page 48).
4. The fourth theme is a cornerstone of the Indian spiritual tradition: self-knowledge. Indeed, the highest form of knowledge, it is said, is self-knowledge. I believe this greater awareness and knowledge of oneself is what ultimately helps develop a more grounded belief in oneself, courage, determination, and, above all, humility, all qualities which enable one to wear one's success with dignity and grace.

Based on my life experiences, I can assert that it is this belief in learning from experience, a growth mindset, the power of chance events, and self-reflection that have helped me grow to the present.Back in the 1960s, the odds of my being in front of you today would have been zero. Yet here I stand before you! With every successive step, the odds kept changing in my favour, and it is these life lessons that made all the difference.

My young friends, I would like to end with some words of advice. Do you believe that your future is pre-ordained, and is already set? Or, do you believe that your future is yet to be written and that it will depend upon the sometimes fortuitous events?
Do you believe eventthat these s can provide turning points to which you will respond with your energy and enthusiasm? Do you believe that you will learn from these events and that you will reflect on your setbacks? Do you believe that you will examine your successes with even greater care?

I hope you believe that the future will be shaped by several turning points with great learning opportunities. In fact, this is the path I have walked to much advantage.
A final word: When, one day, you have made your mark on the world, remember that, in the ultimate analysis, we are all mere temporary custodians of the wealth we generate, whether it be financial, intellectual, or emotional. The best use of all your wealth is to share it with those less fortunate.

"I believe that we have all at some time eaten the fruit from trees that we did not plant. In the fullness of time, when it is our turn to give, it behooves us in turn to plant gardens that we may never eat the fruit of, which will largely benefit generations to come. I believe this is our sacred responsibility, one that I hope you will shoulder in time. "


Thank you for your patience. Go forth and embrace your future with open arms, and pursue enthusiastically your own life journey of discovery!

quotes ( quite a bit ! :p )

Many of life's failures are men who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.
Thomas Edison



Enthusiasm is that secret and harmonious spirit which hovers over the production of genius.

The greatest obstacle to discovery is not ignorance - it is the illusion of knowledge.
Daniel J. Boorstin

A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.
Hugh Downs

Leadership is the capacity to translate vision into reality.
Warren G. Bennis

The man who wants to lead the orchestra must turn his back on the crowd. James Crook


There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world: Those who are afraid to try and those who are afraid you will succeed.
Ray Goforth


Successful leaders have the courage to take action while others hesitate.
John Maxwell



Thursday, June 19, 2008

Forgiving someone who breaks our trust

Trust is one thing in this world that takes a lot of time and effort to build up, but can be done away with very easily.

In fact trust is the foundation of every relationship. Without trust, a relationship is like an "Humpty-Dumpty" sitting on a "wall"....waiting to "fall"...

Hence, trust is "The Most Important" thing that you look out in a relationship. And obviously, you lay your trust on a person, who you think will appreciate and respect your trust, who you think will never do injustice to it...

But when that very trust is broken by that person, it hurts a lot.

Its hard to forgive a person who breaks our trust, person who had a special place in our heart which won her/him our trust.

They might not be able to comprehend the extent to which their distrust has affected us, they may never realize it, because they don’t know the value of trust in a relationship.

But then, whatever has happened, has happened, we might not be able to undo it.

The only thing, we could do is to learn from it and move ahead in life. At a later stage we will realize that whatever happened in our past, happened for good.

A person whose trust was not respected by someone else, would be able to really appreciate the value of trust in a relationship.

Mistakes and problems in life offer us an opportunity to learn from them and continue with life.......
To punish or take revenge u need nothing, but to forgive u have to have a mountain of mental courage..........
MISS SHARK ~ girl who bought the world